..... ssshhhhh, I'm a complicated woman!!

It has been quite sometime since I last pen down my thoughts .... or mostly my frustrations!

From a hectic lifestyle - I moved to doing basically nothing for over a year! (This was when I appreciated and understand my mother more)

When I had the opportunity to take a break to be a woman of leisure, I decided to put myself back to school.

A year later ...

I just had to come back to work as I desperately wanted my freedom for my retail theraphy sessions again.

Therefore, now I have work, school, housechores & being a tuition teacher to my daughter.

I wish was didn't quit being a woman of leisure :0

Money ain't worth it after all!!

Common Area Manners!

At home, since young we were taught to ensure that the living hall is tidy, beds made, bathrooms cleaned, trash taken out daily, floor swept & mopped, shirts washed & ironed and self hygiene brush teeth, bath, etc ......

At the hostel as students .... everyone's too caught out with assignments & exams that the floor is dusty, trash only taken out when it's falling out, clothes washed only when you have none clean ones left, bathrooms no stench but lined with moss .... and so on.

At work, we try to keep our desk as tidy as possible. The pantry, we try to be careful not to spill anything but not too concerned because there will always be someone else who will clean up the mess.

Regarding restroom manners .... if it's the one within your office space then it's fine. But when it's in a common restrooms shared with other people you don't know .... well let's say you'll find it smelly, floors wet, body waste unflushed, filthy paper towels found not it the waste-bin but around it.

We would keep our own place clean but not bothered about public areas. Why can't people be more considerate? What has our society developed to ... or didn't at all?

WAKE UP!! MUMMIES & DADDIES?

Q1 : How many hours do you spend during weekdays
a. At work : _____
b. With your kids : _____

Q2 : How many years would you dedicate your life to
a. Work : _____
b. Your kids : _____

Q3 : Who’s needs more nurturing & your attention?
a. Your new staff at work
b. Your kids

Q4 : Who’s going to really take care / provide for you when you’re sick or a senior citizen
a. The companies you have dedicated your time, life & sweat
b. Your kids

IF YOUR KIDS ARE MORE IMPORTANT …. Ask yourselves :-

1. Why do you spend more hours at work than the required (as in your appointment letter) almost everyday?
   
2. It’s all about the money, right? Because you want to give them the best there is. Take a step back now, are these all really necessary? Are you spoiling them a little too much?
   
3. So, leaving your kids with the nannies or maid, so that you need not worry about working late, a wise decision or it’s a compromised decision? Do you really know what are the things and habits your kids picked up from them?
   
4. Your demanded salary comes with more responsibilities. Meaning the company pays for putting you under tremendous work pressure & stress (which is hazardous to your health). Once you are unable to perform your job due to personal health issues, what does the company do?

Do you have your priorities in order?

21st Century Super Duper Spoilt Brats!

Our parents say sit, we sit. Eat this (even though we hated it so much) and we swallowed it. No TV means we are grounded and need to keep our face into our books. If we want toys, we only get it during special occasions and the choices of toy available are rather limited. We were such obedient and easily satisfied children. And of course, we get spanked whenever required. There was this authoritative influence in our parents that we all feared.
Now compare our childhood days with our children’s – sigh! We used to follow behind our parents. But now, we are chasing after our children! What a huge difference!

• We ask them to sit still for 5 minutes, they start running around after 1 minute. We, then wonder if we should take them to see a doctor because we think they are hyper-active.
• We put a healthy meal plate in front of them. They pushed it away, throw a tantrum and go on a hunger strike. Because we are worried that they’d get hungry, we cave in and take them to their favourite fast food joints for some unhealthy food.
• We buy them some toys each and every time we go to Toy’R’us or any departmental stores, even though we know that some of the toys at home are still in their boxes / wrappers.
• We ground them when they misbehave ….. but to what extend to we ground them and how strict are we?
• We try to give them the best education, but when our child fails, we blame the teacher - not our kid or ourselves.
• How often do we pick up the cane and give them a real good spanking for their wrong doings?

Didn’t we learn anything parenting skills from our parents? Do you think that we are better at it than our parents due to our ‘advanced new knowledge’ our parents gave us? Is because our parents didn't love us as much as we loved our children?

Then, why are our kids so ........?

Man vs Woman …. Round 2 : “Big Baby Small Baby”

During courting days, there were only 2 of us….

In our early marriage days, there were also only 2 of us ….

During pregnancy, there were 3 of us. Man was excited about the 3rd us who didn’t require our attention yet.

Early days of parenting, there were 3 of us. Man was delighted about his new playmate and wasn’t paying much attention to us. We felt neglected and started to spend more time with the baby.

After sometime, man suddenly realized that we were now too preoccupied with the baby to notice them. They felt insignificant and began to also cry for our attention.

At the end of the day, the original plan of the 2 of us taking care of the 1 baby, we now find only 1 of us not only with 1 small baby but also another big baby to handle.

Man vs Woman …. Round 1 : “Before & Now”

Since the beginning of time, men have always been labeled as the stronger sex. They were the protectors for those who are weaker – basically women and children. Centuries have passed, and evolution amongst animals and mankind has taken place …. except men. Sigh!

Before ….

Men work 9 to 5 (depending on occupation) till about 55yrs old to provide for the family ie. food, clothes, shelter and occasionally a little treat for his family with the remaining money he has after spending on himself, with his other male friends or keeping mistresses for some.

While, women bears his children and spends her entire life taking care of the family till she no longer has the capabilities to do so. For some unfortunate women, they are to endure the occasional beating from their drunken, hot-tempered husbands and dare not even raise a single voice for defense. And obviously requesting a divorce from the husbands was a taboo!!

Now ….

Men still run the same routine, especially for the typical traditional / conservative male chauvinist pigs as before. However, there’s a small group of men have taken the effort to pick up some trades from the women. Some of them even excelled at it. (We salute you, men!)

We, women are still the baby factory and are still have to take care of the entire household. If our husband is well off, we may have the luxury of hiring helpers. Women in this century, no longer need to depend of our husband to provide for the family or take care of them. We are now slowly but surely invading the world previously conquered by men only. During certain instances, men these days sometimes turn to us for support – be it moral, work or even money. (Shame on you, men!) When we are fed-up with too many unacceptable lame excuses, we can just move out and tell him to meet us at the lawyer’s office.

A nation on FAST FORWARD mode

Being known as one of the most populated, the fastest growing nation and once many concerned of it's lack of proper sanitation facilities (which has improved mainly in the major cities & developing pockets) .... I really wonder how did they now become a hero from a zero?

In a developing country, the countrymen are supposed to be able to benefit from it in terms of knowledge, employment and business opportunities - which will at the end of the day lead to wealth. I would also assumed that some would be contributed by the government efforts via improved education systems to equipped the younger generation with the proper knowledge for their future. I guess that I should not have assumed too much.

Instead, I find the most fundamental matter (in my opinion) which is the current education standard here completely unacceptable. I now realized why the reputation of its countrymen are as such - they have not choice but to be who and what they are today to fend for themselves be it for survival or out of envy of thy neighbours' wealth. Therefore, one would find malpractices, corruptions, ruthless business conducts and many more here ... especially when foreign investors are moving out their key foreign talents, making way for localization. Due to greed, localization had caused many brands uncalled for distress, shame and loss not only in its own land but also worldwide attention.

After all the efforts, "sweat and blood" put in to build this nation to be what they are today, have now been washed down the drain at the push of the button all by they themselves. Have they no shame? Will they ever wake up and reliaze their mistakes? How long more will it take for them to regain the world's confidence?